“Relearning a Lesson” is Not Always a Bad Thing
By Meshea Crysup, fibroLIFE© Founder, Author, FMS Patient-Expert
We all know the quote, which debatably may or may not be attributed to Albert Einstein, “Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” I will be the first to admit that I actually use this quote a good bit. It is, on the surface, very logical. I would go so far as to say that, for the most part, it is correct. I do believe, however, there is a legitimate exception to this concept. I will explain by starting with yet another favorite quote: “The path isn't a straight line; it's a spiral. You continually come back to things you thought you understood and see deeper truths.” ~Bill H. Gillespie
What does this mean?
Contrary to my nature, I will endeavor to be concise.
· We each have certain issues.
· We can only deal with them at whatever stage of life we are in at a given point in time.
· As we mature, change, experience more, etc., we develop our skillset, and are thus able to deal with our issues more deeply, completely, etc.
· Once our inner being senses we are ready, we go back or revisit it—but not to just make the same old mistake again.
· We “return to the scene of the crime”—or maybe more aptly, the “scene of the time”—to learn from it on a deeper level—process it more thoroughly.
· We recognize what is happening and process it a little more quickly each time—thank goodness!
· This is not the same as making the same mistake over and over and over…
· Still, the hurt can be just as “fresh”, the wound just as “raw”, as the very first time.
· Yet, it truly is a good thing—it is personal growth and we do emerge wiser, stronger, better…
One quote I found put it this way:
“The healing process is best described as a spiral. Survivors go through the stages once, sometimes many times; sometimes in one order, sometimes in another. Each time they hit a stage again, they move up the spiral: they can integrate new information and a broader range of feelings, utilize more resources, take better care of themselves, and make deeper changes.” Allies in Healing by Laura Davis”
― Laura Hough, Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Is a Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse
As usual, while I am talking about LIVING a fibroLIFE©, I am not just talking about LIVING a fibroLIFE©. Again, reality is, a fibroLIFE© is not so unique. Yes, our illness is misunderstood, invisible, frustrating, limiting, even debilitating, yet, everyone faces something. Some face things less severe, but there are those who face things far worse. Severity of an issue is not the issue. The issue is, we all have issues, and we all re-visit them as a natural course of overcoming them.
Do not get frustrated with yourself when you are in this position.
Remind yourself that it is a normal, healthy thing.
Endure it—embrace it—move through it—and move on—again.
Do no harm to others or self.
Apologize, if you need to, to others, and yourself.
Each time, come out the other side LIVING a happier, better LIFE than the time before!