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What You Need to Know to Manage Systemic Inflammation

1/3/2020

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What You Need to Know to Manage Systemic Inflammation
by Holli Richardson, Hollistics.net (Guest Blogger)
 
Inflammation is a common condition and can manifest in many different ways. Aging can contribute to it, as can illnesses or genetic conditions, but you don’t need to live with pain. Thankfully, there are ways you can manage systemic inflammation and its effects.
 
What Is It?
 
Systemic inflammation is when your entire body becomes inflamed, and it is caused by many different factors. Metabolic issues, allergies, and autoimmune diseases are all possibilities, and only your doctor can give you detailed information. The inflammation can increase our risk of illness, as well as raise our likelihood of developing cancer, especially for those with autoimmune diseases. On the short term, inflammation is not harmful, and, in fact, it is the body’s response when we are injured. However, it is when the symptoms become chronic and systemic that we need to worry. To lower it, we have to minimize toxicity at the cellular level, otherwise known as cytotoxicity. Luckily, there are manageable ways to do it.
 
Look After Your Microbiome
 
Much of our health — both good and bad — boils down to our guts and the healthy bacteria that live there. This is called our microbiome, and keeping yours healthy may decrease inflammation. After all, these microbes help us digest difficult but healthy foods like fiber, can keep our immune systems strong, and even bolster emotional well-being. To ensure that your microbiome is in good shape, consider adding probiotics and prebiotics to your daily meals. Prebiotics are nondigestible fiber that can help keep your system running effectively, whereas probiotics such as kefir and yogurt, are active and beneficial bacteria that help digestion. Together, these can decrease inflammation and help you feel better overall.
 
Up Your Ginger
 
Your diet can greatly impact levels of inflammation, too. In addition to your probiotics and prebiotics, add ginger to your meals to see improvements, as well as other benefits. Not only does it aid digestion, strengthen your immune system, and improve circulation, but it also reduces pain. Recent studies support what people have known for centuries: ginger reduces inflammation. It’s fibrous and a good source of potassium, vitamin B6, magnesium, zinc, and other minerals. Even if you aren’t fond of spicy foods, there are ways to incorporate ginger into your diet, from stir-fries to smoothies or cookies, to gain health benefits.
 
Gentle Exercise
 
Inflammation can also be reduced through regular, moderate exercise. To see the positive changes, you only need to dedicate 20 minutes a day to moderate physical activity. This can help regulate the hormones that may contribute to inflammation itself while boosting metabolism, increasing muscle mass, strengthening your heart. Before you begin an exercise regimen, speak to a doctor to determine what is safe and which workouts will be most effective.
 
Lower Your Stress
 
It may not seem readily apparent, but stress can increase inflammation. This does not mean that every surge of anxiety is going to lead to such increases. Rather, chronic stress, or stress that lasts continually over a length of time, may do so. This is why it’s important to learn to manage stress and lower anxiety levels. Fortunately, there are plenty of techniques to do so, and many of them are enjoyable. For instance, yoga is an active way to help us deal with negative emotional responses to tense situations, and deep breathing can be just as effective. If it’s a specific issue that’s plaguing you, write it down and make a list of actions you can take to change the situation, or confront it to overcome the stress it causes.
 
You don’t need to tolerate pain, disease, and stress. It’s possible to overcome systemic inflammation — or, at least, better manage it — through a combination of diet, exercise, and relaxation. If you have systemic inflammation, you need to start the process of improving your health today, as the condition only gets worse over time.
 
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Holli Richardson is a guest blogger for fibroLIFE. Her website is Hollistics.net

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I was everything you were looking for 'til all of a sudden I just wasn't...I'm Not Gonna Beg You...

7/4/2019

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​A dearest friend told me this week that we make things too complicated: Life is simple—do what makes you happy. How ironic that the fibroVoice in the fibroWilderness teaching “Fibromyalgia Made Simple” had to be told to do in her justLIFE what she so well understands and teaches about successfully LIVING a fibroLIFE!
So why did I have to be told? Why do we let outside forces rob us of our joys? Why do we ever stop being WHO we are? Whether it is in justLIFE or fibroLIFE, the answer is, at least in part, that we all need to be approved of, loved, accepted, and acknowledged. Whether it is something you love doing or having Fibromyalgia, we often find ourselves judged harshly and feeling condescended to, unwanted, and rejected. Who we are just is not good enough anymore. The truth is, if that is the case, we were never “good enough” in their eyes to begin with. The problem is with them—not us!

I wrote this song years ago, but like any good country song, its message transcends music genre and time: I’m Not Gonna Beg You to Love Me  (Special thanks to Roman & Cally for their help in this recording!) I hope you enjoy it as you get to actually know who I am: I AM Meshea. This is a big part of who I am and I am proud of it. I have not done much of it lately so the pipes are a bit rusty, but I will get them back in shape--I am determined! This is what makes me HAPPY! 
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Who are You? Who is the YOU that is happy?
No, we cannot always be all that we want to be, but we can always be all that we can be…

Minimize the fibro! Maximize the LIFE! Everyday!
~Meshea
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Medicare and You: Understanding Your Health Insurance

5/2/2019

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While it is certainly true that not everyone with Fibromyalgia (FMS) is unable to work, many are. Those who are unable to work are eligible for disability. It is not easy to "win your case". (That terminology alone infuriates me--as if anyone who is disabled is "winning" anything!) However, once you have proven your case, you will be eligible for Medicare. Of course, as with all things in health care, Medicare comes with its own set of complications, its own form of confusion, and its own unique mazes. Guest Blogger, Sharon Wagner, asked to share info on that topic. ~Meshea Crysup
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​Medicare and You:
Understanding Your
​Health Insurance

a guest post by Sharon Wagner

Medicare is hugely beneficial to seniors; Parts A and B can help cover everything from hospital stays to doctor visits, which enable older adults to stay healthy, vital, and active. However, many aspects of Medicare are confusing and complicated, even to those who have had access to it for a while, especially if they’ve worked for the same employer for many years and have never had to make decisions about their healthcare before. Annual changes can lead to issues with doctors and copayments, and Parts A and B -- which are the most common policies after retirement -- often don’t cover prescription medication, vision care, or dental care. Finding the funds to pay for those services can be a hardship for many seniors, but thinking about making changes to a policy they don’t understand can be overwhelming.
 
Fortunately, there are many resources available to seniors and their families or caregivers to help ease the confusion. Looking online to find out more about your Medicare coverage can help you understand how to make the most of your policy and when to make changes, which is important since Medicare has deadlines and sign-up dates that, if missed, will lead to penalties.
 
Here are a few of the best tips on how to understand your Medicare plan.

 
Get to know the verbiage
 
One of the most confusing things about any insurance policy is the wording; figuring out what the terms mean can be time-consuming and frustrating. But there are many resources online these days that can help you understand the wording used in Medicare policies. Not only will these terms tell you what your copayment is and how to avoid a “coverage gap”, they’ll also help you figure out how to choose the best policy for your needs.
 
Understand the deadlines
 
Medicare has many deadlines and dates that seniors must adhere to, and these can be a bit confusing to follow and keep track of. Getting to know when the deadlines are and how to fill out the correct forms will allow you to stay on top of any changes and prevent costly penalties. For three months before and after your 65th birthday, you can sign up for Medicare Parts A and B -- keeping in mind that Part B requires a monthly copayment. If you miss those dates, you can wait until January for an open enrollment period, but you may be required to pay a late fee. If you qualify for disability insurance, you are already qualified to receive Medicare without an age requirement.
 

Find out about your doctor’s policies
 
You may be required to choose from certain doctors who are in-network with your Medicare policy, so it’s very important that you find out about their particular services and what your policy will cover. Keep communication open with your healthcare provider to make sure their office still accepts your plan if you make any changes to it, as well.
 
Get to know your options
 
Medicare Parts A and B are the most popular forms of coverage, in part because Part A is automatically offered to seniors of a certain age. However, there are several other options that can help you pay for prescription medication or services other plans won’t cover, such as dental work. Keeping in mind that maintaining your physical health has many different aspects, you may want to look for an Advantage Plan that will help you pay for everything you need.
 
Medicare can be tricky to understand, but it doesn’t have to be overwhelming or frustrating. With some research, you can find as much information as you need to make the best choices for your health, which will allow you to remain healthy and active for years to come.
 
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Managing Chronic Pain: Tips Beyond Pain Killers

4/10/2018

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​Given the current opioid hysteria, now, even more than ever, we need to be well versed and informed when we are asked about or discuss chronic pain. Enter new fibroVOICE: Kimberly Hayes. Her article serves as a great introduction to or review of non-medicinal coping techniques. We do sometimes forget the basics, especially when we are afraid--and there is no doubt the current atmosphere is treacherous for those of us who require pain medication. Explaining chronic pain in a way that others understand can be frustrating. Also, we sometimes "know" coping mechanisms we are using but are not quite sure how to articulate them to others. Whether you are just beginning your chronic pain journey and are looking for tips or if  you have been at it a long time and just need a clear, concise, and non-emotional way to discuss it, Kimberly's article will serve you well.  ~Meshea Crysup, fibroLIFE

Managing Chronic Pain: Tips Beyond Painkillers
 by Kimberly Hayes


What is Chronic Pain? 
Sore muscles and aches are nothing out of the ordinary, but when that pain lasts longer than six months and it affects your ability to live a normal life, it is re-categorized as chronic pain. Chronic pain affects some 100 million Americans and it is the most common cause of long-term disability. Left untreated and unmanaged, chronic pain can make it almost impossible for a person to continue living a fulfilling life. Beyond the physical symptoms, those with chronic pain also often develop mental and emotional struggles like isolation and depression.
 
There are various illnesses and injuries associated with chronic pain. These causes include:

●     Post surgery pain
●     Migraines
●     Residual pain from past trauma
●     Cancer
●     Arthritis
●     Nerve damage
●     Fibromyalgia
●     Endometriosis
●     Chronic fatigue syndrome
●     Interstitial cystitis
●     Inflammatory bowel disease
●     Temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ)
●     Vulvodynia

Chronic Pain and Prescription Drugs 
Managing chronic pain often involves taking medication. While most of these medications are safe to use under the supervision of a doctor, there is a risk for developing a dependence and addiction, especially with opiates such as OxyContin (generic name oxycodone), which is 50 percent more powerful than morphine. A pain pill addiction develops when a person takes the medication in a way that is not prescribed. Other signs of a pain pill addiction include drinking or doing illicit drugs while also taking the pills. Those addicted to painkillers become physically dependent on them. 
 
Signs someone may be addicted include:

●     Use of medication when no pain is apparent
●     Loss of control over use of painkillers
●     Increased tolerance
●     Withdrawal symptoms when not in use
●     Social issues and withdrawal
●     Doctor shopping
●     Obtaining medication through illegal sources
●     Extreme behavioral changes
●     Nodding off
●     Secrecy and manipulation
●     Financial, school, or work problems
●     Mood swings

Managing Chronic Pain 
When it comes to managing chronic pain, you can’t expect to just pop a pill to make everything better. Much of chronic pain management requires lifestyle changes and support from your friends, family, and medical network. There are also several alternative treatments for chronic pain including New Age medical practices like acupuncture and herbal supplements. Finding the best way to treat your chronic pain is very personal -- what works for others may not work for you. However, there are a few key things doctors all agree on when it comes to managing chronic pain.
 
Stress Management 
Stress is a major trigger when it comes to chronic pain flare ups. Learning how to manage your stress levels is a great way to prevent pain and anticipate its return. Some of the best ways to prevent stress is daily maintenance including eating healthy meals, regular physical activity and plenty of sleep. However, it also helps to have activities to turn to when stress becomes uncontrollable. Yoga, meditation, and exercise are all great ways to promote a positive mindset and separate oneself from stress.
 
Positive Affirmations 
A positive mindset can do wonders. Giving yourself regular affirmations can boost self-esteem and help with the difficulties that often accompany chronic pain such as depression and anxiety. Instead of creating a habit of negative thinking and self-doubt, remind yourself that you have power in this situation and you can overcome the limitations set by your chronic pain condition.
 
Chronic Pain Support 
When it comes to chronic pain, those who have never experienced it can never truly understand. Finding a support group with people who are in similar situations as you is one way to reduce isolation while surrounding yourself with those who truly understand. You can find a support group through your local community center, house of worship, or even using online resources.
 
Chronic pain makes it difficult to live a fulfilling, normal life. Often those with chronic pain are prescribed medication to help manage, but lifestyle changes and support can holistically treat the issue. Learning stress management, using affirmations, and finding a support system that understands the difficulties that come with chronic pain can help beyond simply taking a pill to manage chronic pain.

 Welcome New fibrovoice:
Kimberly Hayes

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Kimberly Hayes enjoys writing about health and wellness and created PublicHealthAlert.info to help keep the public informed about the latest developments in popular health issues and concerns. In addition to studying to become a crisis intervention counselor, Kimberly is hard at work on her new book, which discusses the ins and outs of alternative addiction treatments.

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Through and Around the Fog

4/3/2018

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   Through and Around
                the Fog

        By Meshea Crysup, fibroLIFE©
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Living my fibroLIFE© to the fullest requires me to purposefully choose who and what I give my “non-foggy” time to.   ~Meshea

Fibro-fog is a state of mental “cloudiness” experienced by those with FMS. It makes simple tasks like phone calls, writing a check or paying a bill, even following a grocery list difficult, if not impossible. Researchers are continually finding specific, physiological causes and proof of Fibro Fog. In simple terms, lack of sleep in general, lack of sleep that is actually restorative, and dealing with increased pain are a few of the most basic and obvious contributing factors.  It is important to note that this fog is NOT drug-related or induced. It is not because of over medicating—it is the body’s response to having FMS.
Dealing with Fibro Fog is an intricate part of LIVING a fibroLIFE©. It occurs so often and intrudes upon so many basic, important functions, that many of us find it to be the most debilitating aspect of having FMS. In my case, there was no way I could safely do my job. In fact, even if I could do the job, many days I would not be able to safely drive to a job!  Even though I no longer work, just LIVING requires me to go both through and around the fog.


Through vs. Around
While I try to avoid them, there are times that I have no choice but muddle as best I can through the fog. Some business, events, occasions, etc. simple cannot be rescheduled because I am mentally foggy. I used to find these times so embarrassing that I would often go into a Fibro Flare. (Experience an exacerbation of pain and fatigue, and thus more fog…) Over time, I have become less self-conscience about not being able to find words to finish sentences in front of others and other aspects of being “foggy”. In fact, I often use such instances as an opportunity to explain FMS to others. I also use humor to lighten the awkward moments. I have simply come to the point that going into a flare over what others think is just something I am not willing to do.

That said, I much prefer when I can go around the fog. Dealing with business issues, phone calls, important questions, etc. is much easier when I have the flexibility to do so when my mind is at its sharpest and clearest. This requires some purposeful thinking and self-discipline, however.
Usually, I am clearest in the mornings. I am also a bit of a neat-freak however. My natural inclination is to make the bed, clean up after Hubby’s and the furry kids’ breakfast, start laundry, etc. Then I want to get my shower, do my hair, and “look and feel the part” before I deal with business issues or the outside world. Even handling business over the phone or online, I am more confident, have more self-esteem, and feel “more like myself” when I do this. However, it simply is not the best use of my energy and non-foggy time!

Most of the time, if I take the time to tidy up the house, I have to rest before I can make myself “look and feel the part”. By the time I “look and feel the part”, I must rest again and my non-foggy, clear-headed window has long since passed. To best go around the fog, I have to compromise what I want to
do and when I want to do it. I no longer allow myself to do things that do not require mental clarity when I am able to think!

Cleaning the mud up when the furry children have been going in and out after a rain is what I am most inclined to do, however, that task does not require me to be mentally sharp. I can fold laundry, empty the dishwasher, and make the bed “through the fog”. Getting around foggy times requires me to be very flexible about some things that are very much hard-wired into my being!

If I want to write a blog post, I catch a non-foggy time, stop whatever I am doing, and write it right then. Often, I skip my morning walk, which I very much need to do, but that is just the trade-off I have to make. It is not easy to choose between being more physically fit and looking better and being mentally productive in a way that helps my self-esteem! Regardless, LIVING a fibroLIFE© requires me to do just that on a regular basis. I cannot do both! (Some days, I cannot do either!)

I try to keep bills and other business that I must do readily available. When I have a time of mental clarity, I stop whatever I am doing or change course from what I had wanted to do. Instead, I go to my
prioritized “to-do” piles. I handle the one that is most time sensitive or most important first. Occasionally, I may even be able to get through the next one or two before the fog starts moving in!
 
This may all sound very basic—and it is—but it is also very complicated! Our natural inclinations create the environment we function best in. I feel very stressed if the floors are messy, the bed is not made, etc. I do not feel good about myself or confident—in fact, I get very stressed over spending half the day in my PJ’s, no make-up, and still have bed-hair! The problem is, stress causes Fibro Fog too! So not only do I have to purposefully choose to go against my normal inclinations and choose to do things that require me not to be foggy whenever I just happen to not be foggy, but the things I have to put off to do this have to not stress me and cause me to become foggy! This just makes me want to shout, “Now tell me again how lucky I am to not have to go to work—to get to stay home all day and just do whatever I feel like doing!”

Planning my day and implementing it according to said plan is just not doable, ever. Flexibility, stress-management, and self-discipline are essential in spite of severe pain, fatigue, and Fibro Fog. LIVING a fibroLIFE© that is productive on even the most basic of levels is very challenging! Choosing when and how to go through the fog and planning ways to go around the fog are a part of daily LIVING my fibroLIFE©.

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fibroCISE© Meets Moticise

3/27/2018

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     fibroCISE© Meets Moticise
                                 by Meshea Crysup, fibroLIFE©
 
I have used the term “fibroCISE©” for over ten years to identify the concept of
incorporating exercise with other activities. When you have #Fibromyalgia (#FMS #Fibro #ChronicPain) it is common to have to pick between exercising and doing other things such as cleaning house, playing with your children, grandchildren, or furry children, grocery shopping, yardwork, socializing, etc. fibroCISE© recognizes that we actually do exercise while doing other activities and we should give ourselves credit for that! It also encourages us to re-think the things we do in a way that puts the “active” back into an “activity”, to increase the amount of exercise we are getting while simply doing something we want or need to do.

On Twitter, a few weeks ago, I came across Sonia Satra and Moticise. A lady after my own heart, she has combined “motivating” with “exercise”! A genius combo-term! After all, how often do we discuss how the endorphins released from exercising peps us up, helps with depression, revitalizes us, etc.? I do not mind admitting, I kicked myself for not thinking of it! I may not have thought of it, but I am certainly excited about it!

A Moticise DVD is available. If you are a relatively healthy person, it is awesome! However, if you have #Fibromyalgia #FMS #Fibro #ChronicPain, it is a bit too aggressive. (Never fear! Of course I have suggested to Sonia that we could team up on one that would be more fibroDOABLE©!) There is a participant that is modifying the exercises, doing them with less intensity, but that is still too much for me. I LOVE the motivational aspect of the DVD however, so I listen to it while just walking in place and other simple, in-home-walking exercises.

Moticise also has an audio product to listen to anywhere while you do any type of exercise. Take it on a walk, listen while you work out at the gym, or even clean house and fold laundry while working on a more positive mindset and setting goals! If you are LIVING a fibroLIFE©, this is an awesome product, reasonably priced, and well worth the money and your time!

As my regular followers know, I do not frequently recommend products, I do not do paid reviews or endorsements, and I never recommend something that I have not tried. I really do own both of these products. I really do use them. I really do LOVE them. For those with Fibromyalgia, or a similar health problem, if you want to pick one to try, I recommend starting with the audio version.
http://www.moticise.com/product/mindset-reset-audio-program/?mc_cid=5b6efbe37a&mc_eid=9c0837bd2c

This product has become a positive, meaningful, and impactful part of my daily fibroLIFE©. I look forward to hearing about your fibroCISE© experience with Moticise!
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Be sure to follow Sonia as well and check out her weekly podcast!
https://www.facebook.com/soniasatramoticise
https://twitter.com/soniasatra
https://www.pscp.tv/soniasatra/1lDxLaqyyZqKm

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Internet Friends by Danielle Faith, Returning Guest Blogger

2/19/2018

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Strangers online are helping each other manage his or her chronic illness and the results are magical. While Dr. Google and the World Wide Web cannot cure you, it can make things a lot more bearable and less daunting. Having a chronic health problem is isolating and terrifying. It can require things like changes to your diet, lifestyle changes, daily medications, specialized equipment and so forth.

I know how terrifying it all is because it happened to me.


In January 2013 I was diagnosed with a rare condition known as Sphincter of Oddi Dysfunction. Suddenly, I found myself in a lot pain and vomiting all the time. More than that, I had to make decisions regarding risky and invasive procedures and medications. I was 24, my world had completely changed and I was terrified.

Luckily, I had access to the World Wide Web and so did numerous other people with Sphincter of Oddi Dysfunction. On a whim when researching my diagnosis I found a Facebook group dedicated to my illness and suddenly, I was not as scared as I once was.

I had Internet friends and we shared everything from what doctors are the best, to tips and tricks to cope in the ER, to what medications work best and which ones cause more problems. This connection let me take back my life. I regained my control through compassion, understanding, and a lot of learning. I made friends with the group members and even invited one who shared the same specialist as me out to coffee.
 
Although I met people in real life it was amazing to have a private place to discuss my illness in an upfront and welcoming manner. Suddenly, you just don’t feel so alone anymore. Suddenly you have access to talk to people with your illness and you regain your sense of self by having a built in support network that knows exactly what you are dealing with.

Having a rare disorder is frightening but when you’re able to share the journey with people who understand it is like magic.


I am very happy to have Danielle Faith return as a guest blogger! This one is close to all of our hearts, for sure! 
​Thank you Danielle and thank you to all of you who follow us here at LIVING a fibroLIFE!
​                                                  ~Meshea Crysup, Founder fibroLIFE
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 Author Biography
Danielle Faith is a chronic pain warrior with a degree from the University of California, Los Angeles in Cultural Geography. Danielle specializes in new media marketing and self-improvement. She has a knack for clarity and over ten years worth of blogging experience. She is currently working on her passion project, xofaith.com, which is aimed at bringing those with chronic pain together in a peer to peer supportive environment. For additional reading she has a post dedicated to DBT Self Help right here.

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Healthy Habits to Keep Diabetes In Check

1/18/2018

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​I am very proud to introduce you to a new guest blogger, Lindsay Maynard. Her topic is not Fibromyalgia-specific, but it is possible to have FMS and diabetes. Furthermore, way-back-when I was in nursing school (When dinosaurs still roamed the earth--the big ones!) I concluded that everyone should eat the way a diabetic has to eat. I have not always LIVED that conviction, obviously, but it is one that I have come back to and am truly working diligently at LIVING now. I am honored to have Lindsay contributing to LIVING a fibroLIFE Blog.
                                                                                     ~Meshea Crysup, Founder fibroLIFE

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Lindsay Maynard loves cooking, biking and photography. She is married to her high school sweetheart and has twin girls. Her mission is aligned with that of Public Health Corps, which is to provide reputable and useful public information on health topics. 

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Healthy Habits to Keep Diabetes in Check
by Lindsay Maynard
Monitoring blood glucose levels is essential when it comes to managing diabetes. And, for some, insulin therapy is a critical element of their diabetes treatment plan. But there are some healthy habits and other factors to consider when trying to keep the chronic disease in check. Here are a few things to consider if you’re one of the 30.3 million Americans adults with diabetes. 
  

Counting Carbs
Some carbohydrate-packed foods, such as sugary donuts and drinks, are easy to recognize, even though they aren’t always easy to resist. But it’s also important to read labels, get accurate carb counts, and measure out portions, especially for those newly diagnosed with diabetes.
 
Until you know how certain foods will impact your blood sugar levels, it’s critical to monitor your diet carefully and consult all food labels, even for those you might assume are low in carbohydrates. For instance, a savory sauce might be thickened with a simple carbohydrate like cornstarch or a whole grain bread could have a surprising amount of added sugar, throwing your carb count and diabetes management plan off for the day.
 
Stress, Sleep, and Other Factors
Most people focus on what they eat and drink when trying to manage their diabetes, but many other elements can have in impact on your blood glucose levels. For example, stress -- whether emotional or physical --  can cause blood sugar to rise.
 
In fact, intense exercise, can even cause an increase in stress -- and blood glucose, although most activity has the oppose effect of lowering blood sugar. Regular activity can also help you lose pounds or keep your weight in check, which research has shown can help lower glucose levels. Especially if you’ve been newly diagnosed with diabetes, you should work with your doctor when developing an activity plan that best suits your situation.
 
Sleep patterns can also change your insulin sensitivity, making you more resistant to the hormone and driving up blood sugar levels. So getting enough shut eye can help keep diabetes in check.
 
Drugs, Alcohol, and Diabetes
The liver provides your body with emergency supplies of glucose to boost your blood sugar if it drops too low, according to the American Diabetes Association. And drinking can cause dangerous drops in blood glucose because alcohol blocks the liver’s production of glucose. What’s more, the liver is charged with removing toxins like drugs and alcohol from the body, so if you are taking medications or other drugs, drinking can force your liver to work overtime and cause damage to your systems. Recreational drug use can also compromise your ability to control blood sugar levels by leading you to miss meals, overeat, or inadvertently skip insulin injections, among other possible effects.
 
That said, alcohol is legal for adults, and has even been shown to have some health benefits under certain circumstances. So if you do choose to drink alcohol, you should ask your doctor for advice. At least adhere to consumption guidelines that indicate women should not have more than one drink a day and men should have no more than two drinks a day. People with diabetes should also avoid drinking on a empty stomach or when their blood sugar is low. And those who take insulin might also need to decrease their dosages -- on the advice of a doctor -- since both alcohol and insulin can lower blood sugar and using both might cause your blood glucose levels to dip. Finally, be sure to balance out any alcohol consumption with drinking plenty of water. Since water has no added sugars, it’s the ideal option for staying hydrated and healthy.
 
If you feel as though you have a drug or alcohol problem, now is the time to ask for help. Many treatment facilities offer support outside of the mental aspect of addiction. Some even offer fitness programs and nutritional counseling to encourage physical wellness. 
 
Controlling diabetes should revolve around more than just blood sugar medications and monitors. Keep these factors in mind when it comes to managing your condition with a healthy, holistic approach.

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Back to fibroLIFE Basics: BALANCE!

1/2/2018

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Back to fibroLIFE Basics: Balance!
Meshea Crysup, Founder fibroLIFE©
LIVING a fibroLIFE© Blog
    www.MesheaCrysup.com   Meshea@MesheaCrysup.com 
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I do not want to bore you all with the usual “New Year, New Me” rhetoric. I will say, however, that I have taken the past couple of months off as far as blogging, being productive online, etc., and have used the time to do more than train our new furry child, Roman.  I have done some serious soul-searching.
 
The last few months of 2017 found my doctor and I at odds over “being” vs. “doing”. Neither of us was entirely wrong or right—the key, as always, was finding BALANCE! No matter what I do in life, BALANCE and I do not always line up! BALANCE just does not come easily for me. Regardless, without it, I am miserable. I truly am thankful for “being” but I truly am not happy “just being”! I AM A DOER! However, if I over-do—well I have Fibromyalgia, so you know…
 
It does not help that I have so many interests, passions, ideas, etc. I have never been good at picking just one or two! Life is too short to not get as many of my ideas going as soon as possible! The only problem is, I end up not accomplishing much with any of them. I have decided that the key is not giving up on any of them, but rather, organizing them and taking them on with a—you guessed it—BALANCED approach! To further complicate things, the fatigue and fog of FMS are a very real part of my life. I truly LIVE a fibroLIFE©. So, 2018 has to be a LIVING a fibroLIFE with a BALANCED approach—which of course is fibroLIFE Basics!
 
So what exactly does that look like?
  • I am actually going to be utilizing a blog calendar for both my history and fibromyalgia blogs. I feel sure this will help on the days I am fatigued and foggy—unable to “pick” a direction or focus.
  • I am going to make time for exercise, music, my passion for the unknown/unexplained, and “just being”.
  • I am going to focus less on other people’s goals—I will help them, but that cannot mean that I “do” the work. I will focus—actually DO—more on my goals, projects, etc.
  • I will work on consistency, taking things “step-by-step”, and focusing on what I DO accomplish rather than on what I have not yet accomplished.
 
I do not know which I feel most: silly to have to re-learn the lesson or proud that I KNOW HOW TO LIVE fibroLIFE Basics©. There I go again—thinking in terms of extremes! The key is BALANCE!

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News Flash, Not: I Am a Mess

10/24/2017

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                                      News Flash, Not: I Am a Mess
                                       By Meshea Crysup, Founder fibroLIFE© & LIVING a fibroLIFE Blog©
Recently I put a good bit of energy into helping someone who was truly struggling. I do not regret having done so. In fact, I would do it again in a heartbeat. I truly care about this person—it was the right thing for me to do.

Now you all know how I operate: I am REAL with people, sharing openly and honestly about my own LIFE so others will see “they are not the only ones”. I handled this situation in exactly that manner. To my surprise--NOT, once this person was doing better, they felt the need to inform me that I am “a mess”.
Ten years ago, this would have devastated me. Especially coming from someone I truly care about. Thankfully, I am past that point in my LIFE. In fact, I fully expected it and was amused by it. The “News Flash, NOT” was delivered electronically and I responded with a smiley face while assuring this person that I remained there for them, they were not alone, they had a friend, etc. and ended with another smiley face. But, I am very sure this person believes I am upset with them, and all the smiley faces in the world will not change that opinion. I am good with that too. WHY?

A LIFE well-LIVED will have been a messy one. ~Meshea Crysup
I really believe that. In fact, it is a quote from one of my blog posts. I had actually shared this post with the person I mentioned above. Obviously, it was not read! Had it been, the person would have known that their News Flash was a “News Flash-Not”. Furthermore, I am not only good with that, but I embrace it! It sums up my online presence in the Fibro-world for the past 20+ years! Being REAL about my struggles, not pretending to have all the answers, and LIVING in spite of that IS what MesheaCrysup.com, fibroLIFE©, and LIVING a fibroLIFE© are all about! ​If I expressed any frustration with this person at all in my response, it was that they seemingly totally missed that point. 

Will I ever hear from this person again?
Probably. After all, I was kind in my response, and I even used some humor. (If you know me, that cannot be a surprise!) If I do not hear from them in the future, someone like me most likely will.

Why do I think this?
When that person’s life is messy again—and it will be—my guess is they will realize that one of the best places to get support is from those who are honest with themselves and open to sharing their struggles, as well as what has helped or has not helped with those struggles. I am very proud to have made a conscience decision to be one of those people.

Am I mess? 
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You bettcha! I have yet to meet a single person who is passionate about LIVING who, in one way or another, or several others, is not a mess.

A LIFE well-LIVED will have been a messy one. ~Meshea Crysup

Below you will find the post containing the quote above and links to other LIVING a fibroLIFE© posts that are similar in nature.

                  The Balance of Reflection, Projection, and LIVING
                  Meshea Crysup, MesheaCrysup.com, Founder fibroLIFE, & LIVING a fibroLIFE Blog©

Whatever business you are in, every few years a “new” way of doing things comes out, makes the rounds, everyone hires the “experts”, goes to the training, and it fits into one of the following categories:

Rehash or Nothing really new: Just a rehash of the last four you spent a fortune to attend.

Radical: Essentially exactly the opposite of what you have been told in the past.

Full-circle: Apparently “Radical” was wrong because now  things have come full-circle, and what you were doing ten years ago turns out to have been right all along—with new terminology of course.

It is a brilliant business model! People are truly getting rich off of re-hashing the same ideas, processes, techniques, etc. over and over and over….

Seriously! I have seen it in healthcare, fitness, dieting, education, manufacturing, governmental agencies, parenting, marriage counseling, self-improvement plans, church—it truly permeates every part of our society.

Guess what: We all know it!

I hear people talk about this all the time, yet, we, or our companies, bosses, leaders, etc. sign us all up, pay the fees and various related expenses, and we all attend. Those who have done it all before see it as a chance to get-away, and maybe they come back with a good idea or two to try—or not.
But wait! Let us not forget the Newbies! First-time-moms, college-grads at their first job, middle-agers changing careers, retirees going to follow their passions, etc. These are the ones who are fresh-faced, wide-eyed, and eager to learn it all—age is irrelevant. It is new to them. They return to where-ever all fired up, ready to move mountains like no one before them, and they are going to do it all now—no time to waste!

Extremes.
We are a people of extremes.
I know I am. (I watch others, talk to others, etc. I am not alone…)
We all talk about wanting to be successful, drama-free, content, at peace, healthy—we all say we want to be HAPPY.
Well, there you go! Everybody wants THIS! You guessed it! It is a booming business! Telling people new ways to FINALLY BE HAPPY.
Same categories. “Rehashes”, “Radical Ideas”, “Full-circle”.
The target audience is EVERYONE! Young people, old people, and middle-aged people looking for how to be young again or accept that they will never be young again.
Some people attend just because everyone else is. They socialize, learn a thing or two they might try—or not.
Others go out of desperation, hanging on the speaker’s every word, desperate to hear that ONE THING they are missing—to find that ONE THING they just cannot figure out. After all, if they have not been able to “find happiness” yet, there must be something they are missing—something they are doing wrong or just not doing at all.
No.
No.
We spend a fortune on this stuff. We wallow in it. We agonize over it. We go from “Gung-ho/All-in” to “Zen” to “Gung-ho/All In” to Zen—again and again. We keep looking for this “magic” or “secret code”. They must exist! After all, we all know others who “have it all together” and are “happy”. So we can get there too—once we figure out what we are doing wrong or what is missing.
No.
No.
Life. Is. Messy.
LIVING. Is. Even. Messier.
Existing is messy, but it is someone else’s mess or a “mess by default”.
A LIFE well-LIVED will have been a messy one.
That is why I am so REAL with my readers.
My. Whole. Life. Has. Been. Messy.
It still is and it will be until the end.

LIFE is complicated folks, yet it is really very simple.
We are born into “whatever”. We have no control over that.
We have certain gifts and talents, certain faults and weaknesses—we do control what we do with those.
Then we live, learn, do—or exist, letting life just “happen to us” not realizing that “not choosing” is a choice too.

We get so caught up in “getting LIFE right”. We look at others and think they are “getting LIFE right”.
There is no such beast as a “right LIFE”.

I am not saying we cannot screw things up badly or that some people do not do awful things. Of course those things are true. You can live your life doing very bad things or in a bad way. Almost always this is the result of extreme choices. Unfortunately we are prone to those. Those not prone to them, they tend to be the ones who just “exist” (choose by not choosing, living by default) and let life “happen to them”, which is another form of extremism.

Certainly some of us have chemical imbalances or other issues that need professional, medical intervention. If you are truly struggling—not “running right”—go in for “diagnostics and a tune-up”. Do not wait until you are broken down and stranded. Do not ignore your internal “check engine” light. What I am saying is, GO TO THE DOCTOR and if you NEED medication for a time—short or long—that is ok. You can have a car looking like it came off of the showroom floor but if you did not keep it serviced it might not be capable of taking you anywhere. You can do everything “right”, but if your body is not making the chemicals you need, you are not going to be consistent, stable, reliable, dependable, etc. You may well “yo-yo”, vacillating from everything being great to everything being in disarray. Extremes—without balance. So, if you need a doctor’s help, GO. If you do not know if you need to go, you have your answer: GO. 

Certainly some of us need therapy. Maybe all of us! Seek out a form of it that works for you, do it, then apply it. I have been “in therapy” now for going on twenty years! I do not go as often as I once did, but—and this is a great place to sneak this fact in—LIFE IS DYNAMIC, not static. It is always changing! I benefit from talking to someone “outside” of the situation, not emotionally attached or involved in it. If you need to talk to someone, figure some things out, or suspect you might benefit from it, GO!
Medications and therapy, while often necessary, will NOT fix everything however.
As I try to explain to those with Fibromyalgia, you cannot expect to LIVE pain free! NO ONE DOES!
​This applies to LIFE in general! No one has a PERFECT LIFE. No one is “getting it all right”. No one has some magic or secret!

So, you want to be happy? We all do. It is not a destination. It is a mode of transportation. (I do not know if that is original or not, but I like it!)

How do you start?
Start by STOPPING (for a bit) right where you are.

Reflection
Take stock of what you have, what your LIFE is. Look back on how you got where you are. Learn from you mistakes, but do not dwell on them—it is over and done. LEARN but do not DWELL there. You cannot go forward DWELLING in what is behind you. It is easy to get lost in this—more on that later.

Projection
Look ahead and determine what it is you really want your LIFE to be. What do you want it to look like? What do you want in it or not in it? Do not limit yourself here—really be honest with yourself and, even if it is unrealistic, if you really WANT it, acknowledge that. (If you do not, it will haunt you, eat you, dog you…) Put this LIFE that you want on a piece of paper—write it out. (Some can just do mental images, others will go digital, but you get my meaning.)
Now, what is it going to take to get there? What are you WILLING to actually DO to LIVE that LIFE? This is the hard part because:
Most do not have unlimited resources.
We can save more, maybe even make more, but whatever our situation is regarding resources, the LIFE we LIVE will be affected by this inevitably so it has to be considered objectively.
None of us control the world or those around us. 
We will want things that are not within our sphere of influence. None of us can make the world exactly the way we want it. Nor can we make other people do, think, feel, etc. the way we want them to. To try is to manipulate—and that is simply not ok. (Communicate what you want, would like, etc. If you do NOT do this, you will always wonder, be haunted or dogged by it, etc. But also, be prepared to accept their decisions. It is THEIR choice so do not plan YOUR LIFE around a choice THEY do NOT want to make.)
Determine what you are willing to do.
WOW. Now this one is especially difficult because what YOU are willing to do will most likely affect others! While you are not responsible for their lives, you are responsible not to “mess people over”. As much as we would like to believe this is a black and white situation, I am afraid it is actually mostly shades of gray. Keep in mind, whatever YOU decide, it will not please someone. In the end, you have to do what is best for YOU. Sometimes that will perhaps be hurtful to others, but YOU are just not able to LIVE otherwise. Sometimes you may actually CHOOSE to NOT to do certain things, even though you want to. There is no formula to plug these factors into. Think it through. Weigh your pros and cons. Make a decision. Just do it. Learn from whatever the outcome is.      
All must accept REALITY.
We do have to LIVE within the REALITIES of the results of our past choices. Yes, we can work to better ourselves, overcome things, etc. but some things are just “what they are”—and THAT IS REALITY.
We all have made choices in our past that may well hinder or even prevent us from doing some things or achieving some things. You cannot change these facts so FACE THEM and ACCEPT THEM.

LIVING
Once you have evaluated what you want your LIFE to BECOME via the above filters, what is left is your LIFE PLAN: LIVE IT!
That is it? That is my “magic”? My “secret code”?
Yes, no, and no.
It is not a secret or magic! But, yes, that is it: LIVE IT!
Sounds simple? Too simple?
Yes and no.
The thought process behind it is SIMPLE. It is basic evaluation (Reflection), planning (Projection), and implementation (LIVING). You do not have to be a rocket scientist to figure this part out. We over-complicate things! We get lost in the past, spend all our time planning for the future, and fail to LIVE in the meantime! THEY KEY IS BALANCE.
Reflection should not become your life’s work! You cannot change it. Learn from your past and move on. You may well not control what comes to mind, but you, and only you, can control what you LET stay on your mind. No, it is not simple or easy. It takes self-discipline, energy, and self-awareness.
Projection—planning your future LIFE—should be a priority as far as your time, talents and treasures are concerned, HOWEVER the future should NOT get “all of you” or “all you have”. None of us are guaranteed tomorrow. LIVE today. Enjoy NOW.
LIVING: LIVE on purpose most of the time
Talk about a dichotomy! Whether you live or LIVE, if you are alive, you are going to do one or the other!
Wwwhhhaaattt?
Whether you live (by default—not PURPOSEFULLY CHOOSING but EXISITNG) or whether you LIVE (PURPOSEFULLY—by “the plan” discussed above) you are going to be alive until you are not.
I am going to surprise you here. You all know one of my favorite soapboxes is about CHOICE. Hold on to your hats! Sometimes just “letting LIFE happen” might just be the right thing to do!
BALANCE!
Do not push yourself so hard to LIVE PURPOSFULLY that you are actually “swimming upstream”. This, in part, goes back to facing reality, acknowledging that you do not control the world or others, etc. LIVE PURPOSFULLY but understand that, even then, sometimes the situation calls for “just letting it happen”—it really is all you can do.

Arriving at “Happy”
Disappointed? Expecting to have read this and have found the “magic” or “secret code”? I am truly sorry, but what you have found is far, far better. You have found an honest explanation of what we all are going through, even if we do not realize it and or acknowledge it. I am here to tell you folks, NO ONE has their act TOTALLY together! ALL OF US are going through this process ALL THE TIME. Some make it look easier than others. Some do it more gracefully, privately, etc. Some are bulls-in-china-shops. Most of us are a mixture of grace, privacy, and bull! But THAT is LIVING!
Once you have done Reflection and Projection and get to the LIVING part, then you will be at HAPPY?
No.
Happy is not a destination, it is the MODE OF TRASPORTATION. 
This is the KEY truth that may matter more than anything else. Life is not static. It is dynamic. It is always changing, whether we want it to or not. It is a journey, and we are always traveling. If Happy were a place, then you could only experience it when you were physically right in that spot! Thankfully, it is NOT a place.
Happy is the state of mind you choose to traverse the journey of LIFE.
You create this state of mind over and over, constantly. Yes, it is a LOT of work! Yes, it takes a LOT of energy, determination, maturity, personal responsibility--yes, with those weighty traits being key, you are going to fall short some days!

Happy is different for everyone!
No one can tell you what your “Happy” looks like. It as uniquely individualized as you are! Although different, we can all recognize Happy when we see it! In fact, I am sure some of you know some people who seem to be Happy most of the time. These are probably the folks you think have some “magic” or “secret code”. They do not—they do have a process or checklist, of sorts, however.
When negative thoughts START, they turn them around into something positive.
We may not be able to control what we think, but we can control how long we dwell on it! (Sound familiar?)
If it is a negative thought, focus on the flip side of it! That would be a positive! If the thought is actually irrelevant to your LIFE but still dogging you, REPLACE IT! DISTRACT! DISTRACT! DISTRACT! Get busy doing something! Purposefully focus your mind on something-anything-else! It can be difficult, but it is actually a “skill” you can develop. Practice it, often! Make it second-nature to you!
Endorphins junkies!
People constantly ask me what meds I am on or what I am drinking! Now, I know that could be a bad thing—but it is because I am almost always perky, upbeat, joking, “on”, etc. It is actually sort of a self-perpetuating situation. Our bodies produce Endorphins (“feel-good chemicals”) when we are laughing, enjoying something, exercising, eating certain foods, etc. The more endorphins you have, the more “positive energy” you have, thus you do more of the activity or activities which produced the endorphins, and thus you produce more… You get the picture! I milk this technique for all it is worth folks!
Not only do I “do” things I know will up my endorphin production, but I also make sure “NOT to do” things that will inhibit them! If you know depression, anxiety, negative thoughts and feelings, etc. are an issue for you, DO NOT FEED THE BEASTS! I have had people call me in tears, so depressed—they had been watching Lifetime TV for three days! Really? I am serious. What you put in will come out! Do not make a habit of watching things that are sad or that will make you cry. Avoid subject matter that is negative to you, specifically. Do not go looking for more negativity to fight off!
There Brady Bunch is Not Real
Stop looking at other people’s lives and thinking they “have it all together”. We have covered this once, but one cannot cover it enough. Our society is gushing with propaganda of “the perfect life”. People see this. People think they should be like that. They are not, so they feel badly, think something is wrong with them, etc. Rich people have problems too! Skinny, pretty girls have problems too! The “Perfect Couple” really is not perfect…  Do not let yourself think that others have it all together and you do not! That is a LIE! That is a negative thought pattern you must fight back, turn around, reverse, etc. We are all prone to this—we all must diligently fight this mental battle. Expect it! Recognize it! Correct it!
Accept the Cyclic Nature of it All
Folks, no one is “up” all the time. I do not care how perfect their life looks or how perky they are, everyone has times that they are “neutral” or even fall into a bit of negativity. Expect this! Recognize it! Correct it!

The battle is never over.
Whatever you conquer once, I assure you will circle back around, and you will face it again. This time, however, you will come at it stronger and beat it back further. Essentially, it is like fighting waves of attacking forces. You fight off the first ones, rest, then fight off the second, then rest, etc. Our minds do this with our “issues”. We attack them on the level we are capable of. When we are “ready”, they return. Expect this! Recognize it! Correct it!
Not only do we have to re-fight some battles, but new ones will come—probably daily! People who “travel Happy” are mentally prepared for this reality. They know—literally know—they WILL have things go wrong, problems come up, heartbreaks, etc. This applies to all of us! Expect this! Recognize it! Do it!

​Summary
To build the LIFE you want to LIVE:
Go to the doctor, therapists, etc. as needed! Skipping this could be dangerous. Many treatable conditions exist and the information and options is improving daily.
            STOP the negative thoughts as soon as you recognize them.
Replace them with POSTIVE thoughts. Ideally, thoughts on what you WANT your LIFE to look like.
Balance your thoughts.
            Reflection should be to learn, not for dwelling.
            Projection should get more of your energies.
LIVING TODAY MUST GET YOUR ENERGY TOO. Somedays it should get most, if not all, of our energies. After all, TODAY is the ONLY day we can be sure we have!
            Manage your Projections/Future Expectations
Dream big! Then decide what you are willing to do to make that dream LIFE a reality. Consider resources, what you control and what you cannot, and remember that you do not get to decide for others and that your choices will impact others. Expect “shades of gray” as you balance what you want/need and be prepared to make some hard decisions…then LIVE with them. Most of the time it will be ok to mess up, to change courses, or to go back—but not always.
            Build the LIFE you planned out.
                        Be focused but recognize that you will alter the plan many times.
LIVE while you are building the LIFE you want. It is necessary to embrace, enjoy, and “be present” in NOW. NOW is all we can be sure of. Do not miss it by using all your energy looking ahead.
Learn to—Choose to--MAKE Happy your mode of transportation on this journey that is YOUR LIFE.
Do not forget to take/make your Endorphins! Pop those babies like candy!
Learn the art of distraction!
Make POSITIVE choices for how you spend your time.
Do not go seeking negativity disguised as entertainment! (Junk in, junk out! Sad, negative energies breed even more sad and negative energies!)
Accept that you will be involved in this process your whole life. EMBRACE it!
Expect it! Recognize it! Correct it/Do it!
THIS IS LIVING.
Everyone does it…and it is BIG business!
Am I against Seminars, Self-help talks, etc.? NO! I am always FOR learning! They are expensive and time consuming however. The same with buying books, audio books, etc. Certainly, you can glean useful information from most products like this. I just want you to go to them with realistic expectations!
Life. Is. Messy.
LIVING. Is. Even. Messier.
Existing is messy, but it is someone else’s mess or a “mess by default”.
A LIFE well-LIVED will have been a messy one. ~Meshea Crysup

Suggested Reading:
http://www.mesheacrysup.com/blog-living-a-fibrolife/act-the-way-you-feel-or-feel-the-way-you-act
http://www.mesheacrysup.com/blog-living-a-fibrolife/you-cant-always-get-what-you-want
http://www.mesheacrysup.com/blog-living-a-fibrolife/when-fibromyalgia-really-interferes-with-living
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Tips For Managing Your Chronic Pain

8/8/2017

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LIVING a fibroLIFE© is happy to have Jackie Waters returning as our guest blogger this week. Jackie’s post is on coping with chronic pain, in general. While not specific to Fibromyalgia, hers is a voice I believe should be heard and I am honored to share her work with all of you! Be sure to check out her website as well! www.Hyper-Tidy.com
 ~Meshea Crysup, Founder fibroLIFE©
                        & LIVING a fibroLIFE Blog©
Tips For Managing Your Chronic Pain by Jackie Waters, Guest Blogger 

Chronic pain is an ailment that affects nearly 100 million people worldwide. Defined as pain that that lasts longer than 6 months, many people battling this condition find themselves depressed because of their quality of life. While living with chronic pain will need some adjustments on your end, you can still manage to live a happy and active lifestyle. Here are some changes to consider to help manage your chronic pain! 
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Eat a healthy diet 
The saying “you are what you eat” rings true for those battling with chronic pain. In most cases, chronic pain is a result of chronic inflammation, and there are certain foods that trigger flare-ups. While acute inflammation is the body’s natural defense system that is needed to assist with healing process, chronic inflammation occurs when the initial injury fails to heal properly, resulting in long term bouts of pain. To minimize your chronic pain, try to avoid processed foods (think most boxed foods in the middle of the grocery store) and do the majority of your grocery shopping on the perimeter of the store. This is where the whole foods like fruits, roots and vegetables reside. Processed foods are packed with additives and preservatives that are guaranteed to cause you more pain and flare-ups. You will also need to lessen (or eliminate altogether) your sugar intake, including artificial sweeteners. When you consume too much sugar (baked goods, soda, candy) your body can’t process the excess glucose fast enough, which increases levels of pro-inflammatory messengers. Your diet needs to be rich in leafy green vegetables such as spinach, kale and collards. You may eat fatty fish such as salmon, tuna and mackerel, and fruits such as strawberries, blueberries and cherries. 

Develop an exercise routine 
When you are in pain, it may seem as if moving your body will make it worse. Actually, it is just the opposite and one of the most recommended ways to minimize chronic pain is to exercise frequently! When you exercise, your brain releases chemicals called endorphins that improve your mood and block pain signals. As your body grows accustomed to being in motion, your tolerance for pain will actually increase! 

Another pain-reducing effect of exercise is that it strengthens your muscles, which helps prevent re-injury and more pain. Exercise also keeps your joints moving well --a great benefit for those living with any form of arthritis --and it keeps your weight at a healthy size, which is great because extra weight will only add to your pain. 

As stated earlier, many people who have chronic pain tend to suffer with depression because they feel like they can no longer live the same productive, fun life they are used to. Being active is beneficial for your mental health because it boosts your self esteem and allows you to do something positive for your overall wellbeing. To know what type of exercise is best for you, consult with your doctor or physical therapist, but chances are, you can get a gym membership or put together a little home gym of your own, and significantly help your situation. 

Avoid long-term use of prescription medications 
To combat chronic pain, prescription drugs such as opioids and antidepressants are prescribed. While those who have had substance abuse issues in the past are more likely to develop an addiction to painkillers, those who have never had this problem before are at risk as well. In a desperate effort to ward off pain, it is easy to ingest more pills than the prescribed amount, which can lead to a long-term dependency on the drug. To avoid abusing your prescription, be sure to only take the correct dosage as needed and participate in other pain-reducing activities such as meditation, exercising or hot yoga. 
At times you may feel resentment toward your body because of the pain you are experiencing. While this is normal, the best way to get back to living life on your terms is to maintain a positive attitude, reduce stress, and treat your body well. Chronic pain does not have to stand between you and the life you want to live!
​Jackie Waters is a mother of four boys, and lives on a farm in Oregon. She is passionate about providing a healthy and happy home for her family, and aims to provide advice for others on how to do the same with her site Hyper-Tidy.com.
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Re-visited!fibroSecret© (Part 5): I Was Afraid to Have a “Good Day”

7/20/2017

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fibroSecret© (Part 5): I Was Afraid to Have a “Good Day” Re-visited!
This is essentially “Part 2” of fibroSecret©(Part 5)! I am including the link to the first part below. Take a quick glance back if you have forgotten what it said, then continue below!
Thank you for using your valuable time and energy to read what I have to say. I am humbled and honored.
Meshea Crysup, Founder fibroLIFE©​
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Well, now that you have reviewed the first part of this blog post, you know the “backstory”, so I am going to just start with this picture from last evening.
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Why do I show so many pictures of myself?
This a pictures of me yesterday evening. With me is my friend, Katie. We were at our usual Wednesday night “Pizza & Beer” place. (Shout out to Billy’s Italian Restaurant here in Vicksburg, MS!)  I will tell you straight up, it is not flattering to me in the least. I am not proud of how I look—I hate being so overweight (Something you who follow me know I am constantly battling!)

If I am so displeased with pictures of myself why do I take them so often and post them? A picture is worth a thousand words. Pictures put a name to the face. Pictures personify what I am saying—the familiarity of the face leads to my being your “friend”, not just a blogger. Pictures actually give you access to—literally let you INTO—my fibroLIFE©. PICTURES SHOW YOU I REALLY AM LIVING MY fibroLIFE©!

I am far from perfect at doing so, but I endeavor always to practice what I preach—not just “talk the talk” but actually “walk the walk”. I am constantly telling each of you to get out of the house, daily even if you can. I am constantly telling you it is worth the energy to fix yourself up—which for this girly-girl means hair, make-up, jewelry…the works! I am constantly telling you to LAUGH! I tell you to take vacations! I tell you to go to parties! I am constantly harping about LIVING your fibroLIFE© to the fullest and not worrying about what other people think about you being out, “gussied up”, laughing, and having a good time. I take and share the pictures to SHOW you that I mean every word I say and that IT IS DOABLE!
There was a time, however, when I would not have shared this picture, pictures from my vacations, or any other for that matter. There was a time when I was afraid to let anyone see that there were times I actually still LIVED, in spite of having Fibromyalgia (FMS). As I explained in the first part of this post, we are already so misunderstood—so many people think we are faking it or it is all in our head. I did not want people to think that about me. What I found was, however, people will always think whatever they want to think. Haters gonna hate!

What I now do is just the opposite of what I once did. Now, I LIVE my fibroLIFE© in full view of everyone—keeping very little of it actually private. Not because, “I’m all that and a bag of chips!” I am not special in any way except that I am willing to put the time and energy into sharing my fibroLIFE© to improve Fibromyalgia (FMS) awareness and understanding. I am not exceptional in any way except that I am willing to LIVE my fibroLIFE© so publically in a sincere attempt to inspire, encourage, and literally SHOW others it is acceptable and doable to LIVE a fibroLIFE© to the fullest—happily and unashamed!

The story behind the picture:
Instead of being afraid of what people think, now I educate people. How? If someone had said to me last night, or if someone who sees this picture says, “You look like you are feeling great!” this is how I respond:
Thank you! In order to be here tonight and look this way, I had to rest four hours this afternoon. I am very glad it worked though!

The full story behind that particular picture is this:
10 PM         Hands hurting so badly I literally wanted to just scream
2 AM          Could not go back to sleep after waking from increased pain
3 AM          Finally just got up rather than disturb Hubby
3 AM to 11 AM
I did some stretches and “in-home-walking” while listening to uplifting music.
I spent some time with Cally—our furry daughter, canine.
I prioritized and EDITED my day according to how I was feeling.
I fixed Hubby’s breakfast and backed his lunch for work.
I put a load of laundry in and ran the dishwasher.
I gussied up a bit and went to the coffee shop.
I enjoyed the comradery of “the regulars”, felt less “alone”—more “normal”.
Answered some emails, corrected some facebook advertising I had messed up.
Had Coffee Klatch with RHV partner, Morgan, for updates and planning.
Went home. Put laundry in dryer.
11 AM        Pain escalating again and fibro fog getting worse/went to bed
3 PM           Sleep had been broken/restless, but I was better.
I took my shower, got gussied up, folded the laundry and put it up.
Then I rested more while waiting on Hubby to pick me up for dinner.
6 PM           PICTURE GOES HERE
9 PM           Had not accomplished a fraction of what I wanted to for the day
                   Pain escalating, tried to play Words With Friends for distraction
                   Could not focus nor stand to hold my phone due to pain in hands
10 PM         Trying to be still, not disturb Hubby. Finally slept off and on
2 AM          Pain woke me up. Had to just get up. Wrote an inspirational/informational message to SOMEONE ELSE to REMIND MYSELF not to feel sorry for “poor me”—other people have problems too. I felt too badly for it to be “publishing quality”, but the person it went to would be able to follow it.
4 AM          Accepted the fact that today was going to be very limited, again…
​7 AM           Wrote this post.
​The rest of the day: REST
 
The story behind the pictures you do not see:
Some will read that and feel like I accomplished a lot. In a way, I did. However, in order to LIVE a fibroLIFE that FULL, I have to limit my physical and emotional stress. For example, I have recently had to dial back, considerably, the SIMPLE facebook promoting I was doing for our B&B Association. I cannot think through it, I get behind which stresses me, so I get foggier, get more behind, get more stressed, then the pain increases… I have not been able to edit Morgan’s latest book due to the fibro fog. I did not feel I was safe to drive to a luncheon earlier in the week, so a friend picked me up. There are many things around home that need to be done that I do not have the energy or stamina to do, AND IF I DID DO THEM, I would end up in horrible pain. (FMS pain is not like being a little sore from doing too much. It is varied, complex, and extreme! “If I were a horse…” pain is what I call it. It is so bad that if I were a horse, I would be put out of my misery.) There are many things Hubby would like for me to do—business calls, errands, etc. I cannot. Things that others “just do” and take for granted, I have to edit out of my fibroLIFE© or I end up needing help getting to the bathroom in the middle of the night because the pain is so bad and my mobility so limited. If I take on more, I am actually able to do less, and less, and less…

Yes, I had fun last night. The laughter released endorphins which help decrease the pain naturally. That is a very healthy thing for me! The socialization helps keep my anxiety down and helps me not feel isolated from the rest of the world. No, you cannot look at the pictures I post and see any of the pain, mental fogginess, or severe “editing” of my life. There are many other things the picture does not show, however. It does not show all the times I have had to NOT go to dinner, lunch, the coffee shop because I could NOT go. I do not take pictures of those times. I am not brave enough to share them—I am not sure I ever will be. I can and do talk and write about those times freely, but I am afraid to let the world see me at my worst.
BUT…

​I am no longer afraid to let the world see that I LIVE my fibroLIFE© to the fullest. In fact, when people say I look like I am feeling great, I am glad. That means what I am doing is working. That means by sharing my experiences—what has worked for me what has not, the ways I have learned to deal with limiting my activity, etc.—I am possibly helping others. What better way is there to LIVE one’s LIFE? Not just a fibroLIFE©, but any LIFE?
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Still not convinced to let others see you are having a good day?
I understand your fear—and I know it will take time and baby steps to overcome it, as well as encouragement from others.
I really do understand how scary it is to let those you know are talking about you behind your back see you actually LIVING. I assure you, they are going to talk regardless.
Furthermore, I really do understand the energy it takes to “gussy up”, go out for dinner, and laugh. More importantly, I understand the benefits of it as well.
LIFE is short. Please, LIVE your fibroLIFE© to the fullest, every single day, happily and unashamed.
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"Relearning a Lesson" Is Not Always a Bad Thing

6/22/2017

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“Relearning a Lesson” is Not Always a Bad Thing
By Meshea Crysup, fibroLIFE© Founder, Author, FMS Patient-Expert
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We all know the quote, which debatably may or may not be attributed to Albert Einstein, “Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”  I will be the first to admit that I actually use this quote a good bit. It is, on the surface, very logical. I would go so far as to say that, for the most part, it is correct. I do believe, however, there is a legitimate exception to this concept. I will explain by starting with yet another favorite quote:
“The path isn't a straight line; it's a spiral. You continually come back to things you thought you understood and see deeper truths.” ~Bill H. Gillespie
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What does this mean?
Contrary to my nature, I will endeavor to be concise.
·        We each have certain issues.
·        We can only deal with them at whatever stage of life we are in at a given point in time.
·        As we mature, change, experience more, etc., we develop our skillset, and are thus able   to deal with our issues more deeply, completely, etc.
·        Once our inner being senses we are ready, we go back or revisit it—but not to just make the same old mistake again.
·        We “return to the scene of the crime”—or maybe more aptly, the “scene of the time”—to learn from it on a deeper level—process it more thoroughly.
·        We recognize what is happening and process it a little more quickly each time—thank goodness!
·        This is not the same as making the same mistake over and over and over…
·        Still, the hurt can be just as “fresh”, the wound just as “raw”, as the very first time.
·        Yet, it truly is a good thing—it is personal growth and we do emerge wiser, stronger, better…
One quote I found put it this way: 
“The healing process is best described as a spiral. Survivors go through the stages once, sometimes many times; sometimes in one order, sometimes in another. Each time they hit a stage again, they move up the spiral: they can integrate new information and a broader range of feelings, utilize more resources, take better care of themselves, and make deeper changes.” Allies in Healing by Laura Davis”
― Laura Hough, Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Is a Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse

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As usual, while I am talking about LIVING a fibroLIFE©, I am not just talking about LIVING a fibroLIFE©. Again, reality is, a fibroLIFE© is not so unique. Yes, our illness is misunderstood, invisible, frustrating, limiting, even debilitating, yet, everyone faces something. Some face things less severe, but there are those who face things far worse. Severity of an issue is not the issue. The issue is, we all have issues, and we all re-visit them as a natural course of overcoming them.

Do not get frustrated with yourself when you are in this position.
Remind yourself that it is a normal, healthy thing.
Endure it—embrace it—move through it—and move on—again.
Do no harm to others or self.
Apologize, if you need to, to others, and yourself.
Each time, come out the other side LIVING a happier, better LIFE than the time before!
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fibroSecrets (Part 5): I Was Afraid to Have a “Good Day” by Meshea Crysup

5/24/2017

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fibroSecrets (Part 5): I Was Afraid to Have a “Good Day”
by Meshea Crysup
Founder of fibroLIFE© & LIVING a fibroLIFE Blog©
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This is the fifth blog in an ongoing series in which I confess my fibroSecrets©. I have found that many others with Fibromyalgia (FMS) are keeping the same fears in, dealing with them—or worse yet, not dealing with them—alone. My goal is to help each of us find the courage to LIVE a fibroLIFE© without fear or secrets and to help those who share a fibroLIFE© to better understand.

fibroSecret© five: I was afraid to have a “good day”.

Actually, I am hedging there a bit—afraid to admit what I am about to admit apparently--I was afraid to admit I was having a “good day”.

How sad is that? Seriously, how sad is that?

If someone with a heart problem has a “good day”, they do not have to worry about people thinking they have been “faking” their heart problem! Their friends are happy for them!

If a person has cancer, no one assumes they are “cured” when they have a “good day”. Everyone considers it a blessing they should embrace!

If someone with arthritis is having a “good day”, most people realize that tomorrow, or the next day, they may be worse again. Most do not expect them to function at this “higher level” all the time.

But if you have FMS, or some other Invisible Illness, the perceptions are entirely different! I heard it growing up, as relatively healthy adults in my life talked about other adults who were not as healthy. I saw it as a nurse, as other nurses, doctors, therapists, etc., assumed they could “just tell” who was faking and who was not. I learned, first hand, that family and friends could not be trusted to understand and that healthcare “professionals” were often anything but professional, if they could not “see” an illness or condition to their personal satisfaction.

This life lesson greatly impacted how I LIVED—or rather did not LIVE—my fibroLIFE© for far too long. I missed out on far too many things out of fear of what others would think, say, and/or do if they saw me or heard about me having a “good day”. The truth is, sometimes I still have to fight this battle. Actually, I am fighting this battle this very day!

I have been pushing the envelope for a good while now. I took on more than I should have. I over-extended myself. I committed to things that I knew would cause me increased anxiety and stress. No one “made me”. It is “who I am”. I take responsibility for that, and I do work on not being that way, but sometimes I fail. I hate having FMS. I hate not accomplishing all the things I can conceive of. I resent not being able to do all the things I see that need to be done and that I know how to do.  
So, here I am, in a major flare, having to re-commit to the much less stressful, demanding fibroLIFE-style© I must live to LIVE optimally, and re-tackling the fear again of “outing myself” on “good days”. I told everyone involved that I could go into a flare and have to do less. I tried to manage expectations, explain how FMS works—ironically keeping those with FMS from working—and I believe those I have gotten close to do understand.

So, this morning, I had to make another right decision for me, and just not worry about what others think. I needed to get out of the house. I needed to try to write something—accomplish something. I needed to be alone, but not alone. (I do not feel up to talking, being entertaining, etc. but I needed to get out and interact some—another whole series of blogs would be required to fully explain FMS and the truths behind that one sentence!)
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So, I am at my favorite coffee shop. It is less than five minutes from my house, therefore I felt I was “safe enough” to drive there and it was “close enough” if I started feeling very badly. I “look” fine—maybe a little tired—but of course my hair and makeup are done, I have my jewelry on, etc. (No one sees me NOT at least looking like I feel ok!)
I am struggling to “find words”, but as long as I am not talking—yes I am capable of “not talking”—no one knows that.
I am writing, so it “looks like” I am being productive again.

The truth is, I feel awful. My pain is up. A much better blog post is in my head but, frankly, I do not have the energy to fight the fog that keeps causing it to disappear from my mind’s eye. That same fog, along with a headache that just will not go away, keeps it from flowing from my mind, through my fingers, onto the keyboard, and out to all of you as the quality piece of work, full of much more valuable insights and information, that I know is “in there”.

Epiphany!
Mmm….
What to do now?
I am going to leave the title of this blog as is, and, hopefully, write the blog post it is supposed to be another day. (Why? Because I feel that strongly about being REAL with all of you!) But in truth, today, my most relevant fibroSecret© eluded even me until just now.

The truth is, I am afraid…
But not that people will see me out and think I am “cured” or have been “faking it”. Right now I am not concerned that someone might think I will be doing as well tomorrow as I appear to be doing at this moment.

Today’s fibroSecret©--apparently fibroSecret Six-- is this fear:
What if I do not “get better enough” again to pull that “much better blog post” out?
What if, this time, I pushed too hard, and I cannot return to my former “optimal state” which was already sub-par, to me?
What if this is going to be my “new norm”?

This fibroSecret© Six is not unwarranted either. As I have gotten older, “optimal” has become less and less. I have had FMS from as far back as I can remember. I was able to work very high-stressed positions when I was younger. I was very high-functioning and I have witnessed that decrease incrementally over the years. What if this time is one of those times?

Maybe this will be fibroSecret© Seven: If this is my “new optimal”, I will make the best of it too! I will LIVE my fibroLIFE© to the fullest extent possible!
But if you know me, you know, that is really not a secret at all!
 
Stay tuned. I will write fibroSecret© (Part 5): I Was Afraid to Have a “Good Day” Re-visited! It will be that “much better blog post” that I cannot pull out of my foggy, tired, aching fibroMind today! I cannot tell you when, but I will do it!
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fibroSECRETS (Part 4): My Dysfunctional Childhood Contributed Greatly to My Fibromyalgia

5/8/2017

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fibroSecrets (Part 4):
My Dysfunctional Childhood Greatly Contributed to My Fibromyalgia

(Part 4 of On-going Series)
by Meshea Crysup
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​I do not talk about this for sympathy or to belittle anyone involved. I discuss it because secrets hurt—especially fibroSecrets©

Daddy is still alive. I visit him, we talk on the phone, etc. We never discuss the past. In his mind, it never really happened. He always blocked it out as soon as it was over. What purpose would it serve to make him face the truth at this point? He is 80+ years old. I forgave him long ago, for both our sakes—but mostly for mine.
Meshea Crysup
Founder of fibroLIFE© & LIVING a fibroLIFE©
Fibromyalgia Patient-Expert, Blogger, Author, & Speaker​​

One of the major problems those with Fibromyalgia (FMS) have is non-restorative sleep. For some, going to sleep is the issue. For others, it is staying asleep. Sadly, for many, it is both! Regardless, when one has FMS, one does not reach the level of sleep necessary to actually be, let alone feel, truly rested, restored, and rejuvenated. As a result, the body does not heal nor or replenish all the chemicals needed. This contributes to fibro fog, mental health issues (anxiety, depression, bi-polar, etc.), damaged/non-repaired muscles, and debilitating fatigue just to name a few of what is actually a very extensive list!

As I have previously shared about my pain and other FMS symptoms, my non-restorative sleep issues also are a part of my earliest memories. I cannot remember a time when I was not afraid. I grew up at knife point, gun point, and on the other end of a fist. There is much more to the story, but you get the picture. Terrified each night, I literally replayed entire episodes of Gilligan’s Island in my mind, inserting myself into the storyline, for mental distraction and emotional escape. I would eventually sleep, but I often felt as if I had not.

​Perhaps I was predisposed and this was the trigger, but I cannot--and I do not—say this was the cause of my FMS. I am positive, however, that it contributed to a “perfect storm situation” in which Fibromyalgia could, and did, thrive. I am not alone in this—I am not the only one with this fibroSecret©.​
How Does This Connect to Fibromyalgia?
Researchers have found that the hippocampus, which is the part of the brain responsible for short and long-term memory, is altered in abused patients. “Re-remembering” of pain and perceiving pain more intensely—two things connected to FMS—are possibly related to this change or even other, unidentified changes.
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Is This a Slippery Slope for FMS Advocates?

Some fibroVOICES© I greatly respect have expressed their discomfort with articles on this link between childhood abuse and FMS. I understand the concerns of contributing to the notion still held by far too many that “FMS is all in the head”. This link however, in my opinion, actually further validates FMS as a legitimate illness. The fact is, without a “psych diagnosis”, the government (Social Security Administration) does not acknowledge the diagnosis of FMS. Non-restorative sleep’s integral part in FMS and its subsequent effects, provide a legitimate explanation for this.

I believe we have far more to fear in keeping this fibroSecret© than we do in encouraging speaking up and getting the help needed. In fact, for me, making the connection between my life-long depression and anxiety, my dysfunctional childhood, and FMS gave me a greater understanding of the complexities of my illness. It was the first step in my accepting that I did need to take antidepressants and ant-anxiety meds. This is an important part of my personal FMS treatment plan. In fact, it is the very aspect of it that has physiologically enabled and psychologically empowered me to more fully LIVE my fibroLIFE©.
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"Spending Time"

4/17/2017

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Spending Time
by Meshea Crysup, Founder fibroLIFE
​LIVING a fibroLIFE Blog
​Fibromyalgia Patient-Expert
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​I have always been introspective. Even as a very young child--three or four--I agonized over what I had “done” with my day, everyday. Uncharacteristically for a young child, I understood that, like money, I only had so much “time to spend”. I had this innate sense that LIFE was short. I just knew that LIVING my LIFE was not the same as existing. In truth, one of my earliest fears was that I would merely exist...

Heavy stuff for a child. Heavy stuff as a teen in a very dysfunctional situation. Heavy stuff for a new wife, new mother, divorcee, second-time wife, second-time divorcee... Heavy stuff, and ironic, for someone with Fibromyalgia (FMS). After all, it is notorious for stealing its victims lives. Not via death, but rather through the limitations imposed upon them by the pain, fatigue, mental fogginess, mood disorders, and a seemingly endless list of “other symptoms”.

I am not sure I believe in irony however--a post for another time, probably even another place. What I do believe however is that as surly as I need air to LIVE, I have to find ways to encourage others to LIVE. Regardless of having FMS, another chronic condition, sharing the LIFE of one who does, or all the other endless variables possible in LIFE, each of us only has so much LIFE to LIVE. We only have so much TIME to SPEND. It is not up to me how you spend it, nor am I trying to make it so. I just want to be sure you realize this truth and are keeping an account of how you are spending your limited time. I just want to be sure you are not merely existing, but rather, CHOOSING how to LIVE your LIFE!

Time...Life...both are short. Please, choose how you spend them!
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Meshea Crysup, Founder fibroLIFE , LIVING a fibroLIFE Blog, Fibromyalgia Patient-expert

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How to Cope With Chronic Pain

4/13/2017

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LIVING a fibroLIFE© is happy to have Jackie Waters as our guest blogger this week. Jackie’s post is on coping with chronic pain, in general. While not specific to Fibromyalgia, hers is a voice I believe should be heard and I am honored to share her work with all of you! Be sure to check out her website as well! www.Hyper-Tidy.com
                                     ~Meshea Crysup
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Founder fibroLIFE©
                         & LIVING a fibroLIFE Blog©
Jackie Waters is a mother of four boys, and lives on a farm in Oregon. She is passionate about providing a healthy and happy home for her family, and aims to provide advice for others on how to do the same with her site Hyper-Tidy.com.

                                                              How to Cope with Chronic Pain
                                                                           By Jackie Waters 

Living with chronic pain can be quite the adjustment for someone who has previously lived a very active lifestyle. When bouts of pain arise, it can be very frustrating and make you feel like your quality of life has diminished. Although the pain in your body causes you to not want to be mobile, there are several things you can do to give you some much needed relief. With effort and a positive attitude you can turn this once debilitating situation around for the better!
 

Make changes to your diet 
Most chronic pain stems from chronic inflammation in the body. Acute inflammation is the body’s attempt to self protect and remove harmful stimuli in order to start the healing process, which is needed for the body to function properly. Chronic inflammation is where the problem lies, because your immune cells start to overreact and fail to eliminate what was causing acute inflammation. One of the best ways to combat chronic inflammation and reduce pain is to make sure you are eating a diet rich in green vegetables and fatty oils such as olive oil. You will also need to eat lots of foods that are high in omega-3 fatty acids, such as flax meal, beans and walnuts. Eat coldwater fish such as salmon, trout and mackerel at least 3 times a week. For snacks, eat a serving of fruit or unsweetened greek yogurt. Avoid the consumption of processed foods and refined sugars because they trigger inflammation and pain in the body. This type of diet will not only help you find relief from your pain, it will also give you more energy, which is a necessity to get through your days! 

Do not become dependent on prescription painkillers  
One of the easiest ways to cope with pain is to be prescribed medication for it. While medication such as opioids and antidepressants provide temporary relief, many people find themselves addicted to the pills later down the line. While those who have had previous issues with substance abuse are more likely to become addicted to painkillers, those who have not had such issues are still at risk because they tend to overuse the prescribed amount in search of relief. While this fact may alarm you, do not try to avoid the use of pain pills until you are in extreme discomfort, because waiting may actually cause you to break down and use more pills than you should. The best way to avoid a dependency is to only use the recommended dose of medicine for your pain. If you still find yourself hurting, find alternative ways to minimize your pain such as meditating or practicing yoga.  
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Start exercising 
When you are in pain, the last thing on your mind is exercising. However, the natural endorphins that are released from exercising can boost your mood and change your brain’s overall response to pain. When you exercise you strengthen your muscles, which helps prevent re-injury and more pain. As you begin exercising frequently, you begin to overcome limited functioning because you are challenging your joints and muscles. Whichever method of exercise you choose does not have to be strenuous in order to be beneficial. You can start by going on brisk walks around your neighborhood for 30 minutes a day or participating in a beginners yoga class. Ask your doctor or physical therapist for advice on what exercises will help you the most. 

Chronic pain does not have to be a battle that takes your life away from you. There are going to be good days and bad days, but as long as you commit yourself to staying active and positive, you can still manage to live a happy and healthy life!
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Spontaneous Smiles

3/22/2017

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​​"Spontaneous Smiles"
By Meshea Crysup,  Founder fibroLIFE© & MesheaCrysup.com: LIVING a fibroLIFE©

We are all aware—and probably guilty of taking—those silly “tests” on facebook. Every once in a while, however, they seem to “nail it”. In fact, one I took yesterday did just that!
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Those who know me, know this to be true about me. It is not an “act” I put on for fibroLIFE© or MesheaCrysup.com: LIVING a fibroLIFE©. I really am upbeat, perky, positive…
I am the one laughing, making sure others laugh…
That “morning person” that everyone hopes to avoid (Remember Donna? Remember Kris?), or perhaps, really hopes to find and have in their life (Like the guy at my fav coffee shop who always thanks me for bringing the whole place “UP” when I come in!)!
The glass is always more than half-full. Someone always has it worse-off than I do.
Something good comes from everything.
There is always something to be happy about.
​And, of course, my favorite soapbox: HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE! 

All of that said, if you will recall, I recently wrote about how my no longer singing in public (or at all basically) was not really so much because of my Fibromyalgia (FMS) as I had told myself that it was. (Fibromyalgia Has Gotten a "Bad Rap" on this One")  As I wrote, I was determined to and have been facing the truth about why I developed stage-freight and I started reclaiming that part of myself—my LIFE. I actually found some songs I wrote in 2004-05, and sent them to some friends to hear. Some of these friends have known me forever and were not surprised at the music—only that I was sharing it again, finally! More recent friends were shocked. They had no idea this had ever been a part of my LIFE, or if I had mentioned it, they had not really believed that I was “not half-bad” at one time.  

One of these more recent friends is someone I really only know from facebook. We are both members of a few of the same fb groups. I actually began talking to him because he lives in India and I am constantly seeking to understand other cultures and religious beliefs, in this case, Hinduism. (Fascinating, ANCIENT belief…!)

Well, as per usual with FMS, I was up in the wee-hours this morning. I was trying to distract myself from the pain by doing some “mindless” (Meaning it was easy, not taking a lot of ability to focus.) promoting of Rediscovering Historic Vicksburg, as well as posting some inspiring and motivational Memes, along with “my two cents”, on my personal page and fibroLIFE©, and MesheaCrysup.com: LIVING a fibroLIFE©, when a fb message popped up instructing me to check my email. What I found there left me in tears—happy tears. But, typical girly-girl that I TOTALLY AM, I was also smiling. Not just any-old-smile: A Spontaneous Smile!  
 
My fb friend from India had put together a movie to go with one of my songs! He even mixed in pictures of my family, friends, and me…smiling! Ironically, he only knew that I had written the song. He asked who “the voice” was. I really smiled—and cried some more—when I told him it was all me. The voice, music, lyrics—all me. He replied, “Mmm…that’s why you’re so popular!”

I simply replied, “I don’t know about that, lol!” I was thinking, however, “No, I am not popular—I just LIVE, laughing and smiling as much as possible.”

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I never give up and I LIVE that philosophy—my fibroLIFE©--openly for all the world to see. I try to LIVE as an example for all those with chronic pain, anxiety, depression—for all of those who are “Eeyore’s” and hide behind, “That’s just the way I am…”—for anyone and everyone who needs someone always a “bit-too-perky-to-be-real-but is” in their LIFE…” Believe me, that does NOT always make me popular, but I have found that those who are bothered by my approach to LIFE seem to need me—or someone like me—around the most.
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I told my fb friend I could not thank him enough and asked why he did such a thoughtful thing. He replied, “The future depends on what we do in the present? Ahaaaaa!”
He was quoting something I had “mindlessly” posted, and in true-Meshea-fashion, had elaborated on, about two hours earlier. This is it:
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Yes, of course I cried—but happy tears—along with a Spontaneous Smile! Thank you Ribi NK!
​~Meshea Crysup


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Fibromyalgia Has Gotten a "Bad Rap" on This One

3/10/2017

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Fibromyalgia Has Gotten a “Bad Rap” on This One
 
By Meshea Crysup, fibroLIFE© Founder

…the possibility of “fogging” also has caused me to experience extreme stage fright, which, anyone who knows me can tell you, is NOT me.
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Recently, I have missed listening to and playing music, performing, learning new material, etc. I really do not like to learn new songs, or even practice old material, if I do not then perform them. However, having Fibromyalgia (FMS), it is hard, if not impossible, to commit to performances. Making things even more complicated is the fact that the possibility of “fogging” also has caused me to experience extreme stage fright, which, anyone who knows me can tell you, is NOT me. (Is it really just the fibro fog that has led to my fear? Sorry, I am getting ahead of myself…)

It just so happens I saw two of my doctors this week and the prescription was, (drumroll please) “You
have to start playing music again for your own wellbeing.” Apparently playing, singing, performing, and writing since you were a very young child, then totally giving it up, is not mentally healthy. Something about, “…shutting down, discarding, and burying a huge part…” of who I am. (Of all people, you would think I would have figured this one out on my own! Maybe I knew…?)

So, after seeing the docs, I actually dug up files of songs I wrote in 2004 and 2005, files of Alix—one of my former students and dearest friends—and I practicing and singing, and some other “old stuff”. I have been listening to them, sharing some of them with both new and old friends, and have even had my guitar out to play a bit. There have been some tears, I will not deny, but most of them happy ones. In fact, the entire experience has been a positive one, except for the whole “old computer files are difficult” part.  Admittedly, I have not figured out how in the world I am going to perform in spite of—as a part of—LIVING a fibroLIFE©. I am sure I cannot do so on a regular basis. However,
I am going to sing and play for people again. I am going to write again as well.

My main take-away from this, however, has been a fact that I knew, but did not want to admit: Fibromyalgia—my fibroLIFE©--has gotten a “bad rap” on this one. While it is true that it makes embracing the singer/songwriter/musician part of myself difficult, the real reason I have totally suppressed that important part of myself really has nothing to do with FMS. It has just been easier to “blame” FMS than to face the real issue. It is time.

Naturally, having discovered this truth in my own fibroLIFE©, I felt compelled to share it with all of you. LIVING a fibroLIFE© is remarkably hard. No doubt, FMS effects many aspects of LIFE so completely that we have to greatly modify how we LIVE. However, for your own wellbeing, take a bit and ask yourself: Is there something I am blaming Fibromyalgia for in my LIFE because it is easier than facing the real issue?
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I Caught a Glimpse of Me Today! Revisited!

3/1/2017

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An excerpt from a poem I wrote years ago.
 
               …I wanted to take a picture of this moment
               For all my friends to see.
              So many who know me now did not know me then.
              I wanted them to meet the real me…
                                           I Caught a Glimpse of Me Today!
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                                        By Meshea Crysup, fibroLIFE© Founder
 

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I am not going to spend a long time on this post, because time—clear thinking, productive time—is a luxury I cannot afford to waste. I did feel, however, that I had to share this with all of my friends and followers, LIVING a fibroLIFE©.
 
This morning, we had a bit of crisis at the home we still own, four-hundred-plus-miles-away, in Paducah. No one was hurt, but still there was “business to be done”.
On top of that:
·        I had Coffee Klatch, which is my weekly meeting with “Partner-in-Time”, Morgan Gates, and Realtor Extraordinaire, Kim Steen, to discuss the status and plan steps of Rediscovering Historic Vicksburg©.
·        I am struggling horribly getting the formatting correct on Rediscovering Historic Vicksburg Book Series© first book, of course written by Morgan Gates.
·        I needed to get a new ad out for a part-time tour guide for Haunted Vicksburg Ghost Walk, opening for its seventh season this very weekend.
·        I needed to find out the times for Ash Wednesday Service at the various Catholic churches in town, then go pick up, Hubby and his colleague for the service, and take them back to work.
·        Plus, I had just the usual “every-day-LIVING” we all must do!
 
Those of you with FMS (Fibromyalgia) know that can be three month’s work, let alone a few hours in one morning! Today, however, I rose to the occasion--I caught a glimpse of me.
 
·        I made phone calls, managed multiple texts, found files and other older information needed, and was not inarticulate when discussing the damage and management of the situation in Paducah.
·        Coffee Klatch was “Click, click, click…” for me, mentally. No fog, in spite of the Paducah crisis going on.
·        I had an epiphany regarding the formatting issues with Morgan’s book.
·        Morgan and I whipped up the ad during out meeting—bam!
·        I called around—yes I used the phone, for talking, multiple times today—identified the best Mass to attend, rounded up Hubby, plus one, went to Mass, and got them both back to work.
·        I wrote, in my head, nearly in their entirety, at least three blog posts I want to do regarding my Catholic Lenten experience.
·        I wrote down the title to no less than five songs I heard that I really want to work out and actually perform in front of people!
·        I called my former, fibroLIFE© co-Director and Dear-Friend-Extraordinaire, Kathy Keeney to discuss the tree that blew down (That’s a whole other blog post.) and a possible visit soon.

Then, immediately after that phone call, I went to the end of the driveway to collect the garbage can after trash pick-up. I felt the wind in my hair and on my face—always a feeling that moves and inspires me—and I broke down in tears.
I cried, and cried, and cried…
I am still crying.
My mind is literally screaming, repeatedly, “I miss me!”
In spite of the tears, I am still not foggy, the pain is not overwhelming, and I am not yet too fatigued to continue, and continue, damn it, I will!
 
I got my computer back up after having it with me for Coffee Klatch, found the poem I wrote many years ago, and, in spite of all the things I still need to do, I whipped this out. (Yes, I LIVE with Fibromyalgia and TODAY I was able to say I say I “whipped something out!”)
 
WHY did I take the time to do so?
 
Some who read what I write about LIVING a fibroLIFE© think—and have told me in no-uncertain-terms—that I must not struggle as much as they do because I insist we all can, and must, choose to LIVE in spite of FMS. I wanted to share this very real moment, especially for them.
 
If I allowed myself to think thusly, I would see a stranger looking back at me in the mirror, a good deal of the time. I would give up. I would be defeated. I would not be doing my darnedest to remain “relevant” in the real world. I do not allow myself to think that way, however.
 
True, I am not this me nearly as often as I long to be. But always, I am me! There is no shame in being the “me” I usually am now. I refuse to stop LIVING. Even on the days I cannot do so at “Meshea-Speed”, I stay positive, I stay engaged, and, most importantly, I keep trying.
 
It is not easy. I love the days—the precious, few days—like today, when it is easy, but no one has an easy life.  We all have a LIFE struggle of some sort. Fibromyalgia, frankly, is but one of mine—but it is just that: mine. I am not unique. I have not been singled out, punished, etc. No matter how much it may seem so, during my many long hours of pain, fog, and fatigue, I do not have it worse than most of those around me. I have it differently than most, but not worse.
 
Yes, I am so very glad to be the more capable me at this moment, but I must choose to LIVE when she is drowned out by FMS.
 
…Reality set in and I knew in a day, hour, or moment
Fibromyalgia could again take it all away.
I prayed, “Dear God, help me remember.
Dear God, help me remember…”
I caught a glimpse of me today!
 
Yes, I want to remember, but I am through crying—this time.  Yes, I said it: this time. I mourn too—just like you—even after twenty-plus years of no longer being able to be that me. I really do understand the struggle of LIVING a fibroLIFE©. I am not super-human. I do not think I am better at this “LIVING a fibroLIFE©-thing” than any of you. In fact, I am probably not as strong as many of you are. That is why I know, beyond a shadow-of-a-doubt, you really can choose to LIVE your fibroLIFE© too.
 
It is time to stop crying—stop “missing me”. I am right here: Stubborn, obstinate, determined, and always, always, LIVING my fibroLIFE©.
 
 
Below is the poem, in its entirety. I wrote it over fifteen years ago. Some days, it still applies. Some days, I still grieve…but I move on…every time. Every. Single. Time.   ~Meshea Crysup
 
 
I Caught A Glimpse of Me Today
Though ever-present pain greeted me
When I opened my eyes,
My mind was not foggy.
I praised God as I realized…
I caught a glimpse of me today!
I could think clearly
And concentration did not make my head ache.
I could be my old creative self.
I was elated at the possibilities of what I might make…
I caught a glimpse of me today!
I felt like my former witty self;
Ideas flowed quickly as before.
I prayed that it would last.
I hungered for more…
I caught a glimpse of me today!
A song was on my lips,
Unable to remain in a heart so eager;
I sang out loud to God and myself.
No one else was around to hear, but it didn’t matter…
I caught a glimpse of me today!
The reflection in the mirror
Was not merely the shadow of a memory;
There she was, just like before.
She was real…
She. Was. Me.
Though my body was racked with pain
There was joy on my face.
At that moment I was secure,
Confident of God’s grace…
I caught a glimpse of me today!
I felt confident of my gifts and talents.
I was sure of my abilities.
I wanted to play and sing, write, teach, organize, lead, encourage, cook, sew…
The hardest part was choosing just one of these…
I caught a glimpse of me today!
Happiness flooded my soul
And brought the twinkle back to my eyes.
Optimism was again truth,
Pessimism again lies…
I caught a glimpse of me today!
I wanted to take a picture of this moment
For all my friends to see.
So many who know me now did not know me then.
I wanted them to meet the real me…
I caught a glimpse of me today!
Reality set in and I knew in a day, hour, or moment
Fibromyalgia could again take it all away.
I prayed, “Dear God, help me remember.
Dear God, help me remember…”
I caught a glimpse of me today!
 
Meshea Crysup
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Do YOU Really Make a Difference?

1/29/2017

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Do YOU Really Make a Difference?
by Meshea Crysup, fibroLIFE Founder
​www.MesheaCrysup.com


I imagine those of you who spend a lot of time online trying to help others with Fibromyalgia (FMS) have heard that question many times. I know I have. Even worse, it is usually those closest to me—family and friends—that just have to ask. I will admit, sometimes I even wonder myself. After all, there are so many of us now on facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, etc. Is there really that much to say about FMS? Is there really a need for so many of us talking about the same thing?

YES!

I have been in a flare after being sick and having to take antibiotics. Because of that, I have not blogged on FMS or posted and shared much about it for about two weeks now. However, during that time, I have been contacted several times regarding FMS. I would like to share just a couple of them with you.

A friend from Paducah was having new symptoms. She wanted my advice. Of course, any new symptoms must not be assumed to be “just FMS.” She has followed me online for years and attended many of my talks, so she knew this, but she needed me to tell her that I really meant it for even her! It turned out to not be fibro-related as well as pretty serious. She let me know the outcome and thanked me for still being here for her all these years.

I received a text. It simply said, “My name is______ (I am not revealing her name) and I am having __________. (I am not revealing her symptoms.) Could this be from my FMS?”  After our text discussion, she simply said, “Thank you!” I still do not know her last name, where she lives, etc. I do not need to. I have put my name and number online via blogging, facebook, websites, etc. for years and have told people consistently, “If you have questions, TEXT ME anytime. When I am able to, I will reply.” I was so moved that she took me at my word! It also got Hubby's attention which is great, because he is not always so sure I am really making a difference. Actually, I was feeling very useless because of my flare and her text may have helped me more than my reply helped her!

I have a few more incidences, similar in nature, but you get the gist of it.

YES, my being online blogging, sharing, opening up, reaching out, encouraging, educating, etc. really does make a difference! It not only helps others, but it helps me as well!​
I am just as convinced that, Yes, YOU—all of you, each of you— no matter how big or small, YOUR online presence really makes a difference as well!


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Fibromyalgia Symptom Tracking

1/11/2017

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How to LIVE a fibroLIFE©: Fibromyalgia Symtom Tracking
 
fibroLIFE Basics©: Tracking your symptoms is worth the time and effort!

You do not have to understand Fibromyalgia (FMS) at the healthcare professional’s level to LIVE a fibroLIFE©. What you must do, however, is figure out what causes your symptoms to increase and decrease. In fact, this is not something anyone else can do for you nor can any healthcare professional accurately answer for you. Yes, it is true that there are predictable changes, activities, stressors, etc. that will cause FMS to be worse, but the degree of effect of each of these is different for everyone. You have to determine your own “cause and effect” perimeters. The only way to do that is to track your symptoms.

There are tools available online and in books to help with this. You can create your own if you prefer even. What really matters is that you actually have a system that you are using!

Because my focus is in keeping Fibromyalgia as simple as possible for you, I advocate tracking the “Big Four”: Pain, Fatigue, Fog, and Mood. fibroLIFE© actually has a symptom tracker that utilizes pictures as visual aids to make it easier to identify what it is or how it is that you that you are feeling. I do not use “…on a scale of one-to-ten...” Frankly, who remembers what “six” felt like three days ago?  

I do make little notes related to the “Big Four” pictures that I circle or mark to document information that will help me later understand the “cause and effect” aspects. For example, if I document that my pain was worse than usual, I will also note if it was storming, had turned cold, if I had overdone it the day before, if I was taking a cold, if I had experienced a very emotional incident such as a fight or a death, etc.  I also tend to note how much pain medication I have to take. For me, this is a very consistent indicator as to how badly I am hurting.

Of course we have many other symptoms with FMS, but often they can be indicated with a brief note as well. If not, fibroLIFE© does have more detailed symptom trackers. I do not recommend them for long-term use, however. After over a year of testing various symptom-tracking systems with several FMS sufferers, we found the more basic the tracker, the more apt they were to use it. Tracking symptoms in depth for a few days is not as important or helpful, usually, as tracking “the big 4” an entire month at a time.
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Doctors also got to see these trackers in use during the same time period and found the information very helpful in quickly understanding what their patients day-to-day fibroLIFE© looked like. In fact, the tracker is designed to show an entire month’s worth of symptoms at a glance. This type of information tends to promote communication between doctors and patients, improve doctor/patient relationships, and lead to improved and more effective FMS treatment plans.

Whether you are trying to determine what is wrong with you, have already been diagnosed with FMS, or have been dealing with FMS for years, symptom tracking is an essential part of minimizing fibro and MAXIMIZING LIFE—an essential part of LIVING your fibroLIFE©!

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If You Knew You Would Not Be Judged

1/1/2017

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If You Knew You Would Not Be Judged…

One of the people I follow on facebook had this question posted today:  If you knew you would not be judged, what one thing would you do differently? Surprisingly, everyone was declining to answer! Not surprisingly, I did not hesitate to answer. After all, the parameters of the question clearly stated, “If you knew you would not be judged…” What was there to fear?  Apparently, no one else believed that they could trust that they would not be judged. 
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To be honest, I did not believe it either. I suppose since I knew I would be judged, I must not have cared. Why else would I have answered?

Another person I follow on facebook had a bit of a twist to a common quote. Instead of saying, “I’d rather regret something I did than something I did not do,” the comment made was, “I find what I regret most are all things that I did.” I could not relate at all. Of course, I regret things I have done, but at least I “did”—I LIVED.

I have faced challenges in life—big ones—as far back as I can remember. I had severe pain and was not well, but not actually sick either, as far back as I can remember. I lived in fear in my home—the one place every child should feel safe—as far back as I can remember. People did not believe I was in pain or sick. People did not believe that home was not safe. They did not always come right out and say so, but, even as a child, I could tell.

Maybe the fact that I have dealt with knowing I was being judged—and wrongly—from such an early age is why I was the one today who answered the question of what I would do differently without hesitation.
Add to that, staying safe and feeling well were never “givens” in my life—again, as far back as I can remember. So, yes, many of the things I regret are things I have done rather than things I did not do, but I am more than good with that. I want my mistakes in life to mean something—to be because I was trying to do something rather than not trying. Doing nothing is existing. Trying is LIVING.

What did I say I would do differently?
I said I would have studied Ancient History and Civilizations, become an Egyptologist, and have spent my life traveling—probably while remaining single.

Logically, the next question has to be: Since I feel so strongly at this point in my life that I wish I had done these things, what am I doing about it now?

I have read about Ancient History and Civilizations my whole life, and continue to do so today. The same with Egyptology. I travel as much as I can. Granted, I have not been able to travel to the places I read about, I am looking for ways to do so in the future. In the meantime, I am part of several online groups that have the same interests.

Also, because I love Ancient History, loving history in general was a natural progression. I have studied World History and American History for years. I have traveled to many of the places I have studied, including St. Petersburg, Russia. I plan to travel to even more of them. Also, I now LIVE in one of the places I studied: Vicksburg, MS. I am also, as my followers know, now DOING what I can to support “Rediscovering Historic Vicksburg”.

I am not worried about being judged by others. I am not worried about mistakes I might make because of what I am trying to do. I am too busy LIVING my fibroLIFE© to the fullest, in spite of Fibromyalgia (FMS).

I want to end with a few questions for you:
Yes, someone will judge you, but what would you have done differently?
Yes, you will make mistakes, but what are you going to do about it now?
It is a brand new year; what better time to start?
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I heard a quote today I am going to borrow and modify a bit: I want to be at the scene of the TIME!

I am very excited about what all of us are going to do in 2017, each LIVING our fibroLIFE©!

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Vicksburg Bed and Breakfast Association

12/29/2016

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Vicksburg Bed and Breakfast Association

Baer-Williams House Inn                           
1117 Grove St., Vicksburg, MS 39183
601-883-1525
www.baerhouseinn.ms
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​Duff Green Mansion

1114 First East Street, Vicksburg, MS 39180
601-636-6968
www.duffgreenmansion.com
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​The McNutt House
815 1st E St, Vicksburg, MS 39183
601) 529-2695
www.themcnutthouse.com
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​McRaven House

1445 Harrison Street, Vicksburg, MS 39180  
601-501-1336
www.mcraventourhome.com
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​Historic and Haunted Vicksburg
601-618-6031   
www.historicvicksburg.com
www.hauntedvicksburg.com
info@hauntedvicksburg.com
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​Main Street Market Café
902 Cherry Street, Vicksburg, MS 39183
601-634-8088
www.mainstreetmarketcafe.com
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Does it Really Matter if “They” Understand?

12/23/2016

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Unfortunately we all have those family members and friends who just do not get Fibromyalgia (FMS).
​You can try to educate them.
You can get angry with them.
You can ignore them.
Before doing anything, however, take a moment to consider this:

When it is all said and done, does it really matter if they understand?
Whether it is because it is holiday time, a birthday celebration, or just a chance meeting, unfortunately we all have those family members and friends who just do not get Fibromyalgia (FMS). Even worse, most of the time they think they know more about it than you do. There are several ways to handle the situation.

You can try to educate them.
Not everyone is teachable, for whatever reason. Perhaps they are not capable of learning, do not want to understand, are just convinced, for some reason, they have gotten better information from another source even though it is wrong, etc. Sometimes the situation or location is not conducive to making it a teachable moment.

You can get angry with them.
Anger is a legitimate emotion and one we are all entitled to. There are times when enough-is-enough and it is time to let someone know it. There is a fine line however between assertively informing someone that they are out-of-line and aggressively addressing the issue, ending up out-of-line yourself.

You can ignore them.
Sometimes it is best for you, the other person, for others, or perhaps for everyone, to just be the bigger person and let it go.

The question is, “Does it really matter if they understand?”
I am not going to pretend for a moment that I know the answer to all the possible hypothetical scenarios. I am not even going to say I would know the correct answer if I knew the details of an actual situation. In fact, the only one who can answer that is you.

Only you know the dynamics of the relationships involved, the personalities of the people involved, etc. Only you know if you want to use your limited energy trying to set the record straight. Only you know if you will be helping more than hurting or hurting more than helping by taking a stand. I do know, however, that whatever the topic, rarely will everyone you know agree with you or understand your situation.
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In my own LIFE, there have been situations when keeping the peace, preserving relationships, not spoiling a special occasion, or just being the bigger person or more understanding person was the best thing for everyone involved,
including, and maybe even most especially, myself.
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